The Wonderful World of SISTERS

Posted on Sep 28, 2011 in Faith | 69 comments

These last several days I have been re-reading the hundreds of e-mails and cards I received when I was pregnant with my fifth child (over five years ago) whom we learned had two fatal conditions and died five hours after his birth.  I hadn’t read these notes since then and am deeply touched by the many and varied expressions of sympathy and compassion which came my way during this very dark, painful time.  Although there were indeed a handful of men who were true friends and I know fervently prayed for me and our family, most of the love lavished on me came through women–and I honestly don’t know how I could have made it through this time (and various other happenings in my life) without them.  I wish I could thank each and every one face-to-face.

One of the e-mails included a story entitled “Sisters” which I’d like to dedicate to all the ladies in my life, then and now, who mean so much to me.  I did not write it nor do I know who did.  I don’t have a biological sister but I am SO grateful for the “Sisters” God has given me, especially when I’ve needed them most.

“A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot, humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother.  As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

‘Don’t forget your Sisters,‘ she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass.  ‘They’ll be more important as you get older.  No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need Sisters.  Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.  And remember that “Sisters” also means your girlfriends, your daughters, and other women relatives too.  You’ll need other women.  Women always do.’

‘What a funny piece of advice!‘ the young woman thought.  ‘Haven’t I just gotten married?  Haven’t I just joined the couple-world?  I’m now a married woman, for goodness sake!  A grownup.  Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!’

But she listened to her Mother.  She kept contact with her Sisters and made more women friends each year.

As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about.  As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, Sisters are the mainstays of her life.  After almost 50 years of living in this world, here is what she learned:

Time passes.  Life happens.  Distance separates.  Children grow up.  Love waxes and wanes.  Hearts break.  Careers end.  Jobs come and go.  Parents die.  Colleagues forget favors.  Men don’t call when they say they will.

BUT Sisters are there, no matter how much time or how many miles are between you.  A Sister is never farther away than your needing her can reach.  When you have to walk that lonesome valley, and you have to walk it for yourself, your Sisters will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end.  Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you.  Or come in and carry you out.

Our sisters, sisters-in-law, and “girlfriends” bless our lives!  Our world wouldn’t be the same without them, and neither would we.  When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or devastating sorrows that lay ahead.  Nor did we know how much we would need each other.  Every day, we need each other still.

Tomorrow we will need each other even more.  

Pass this on to the women who help make your life work.  I just did.” 

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